The New Year is right around the corner and that means women and men alike will don their pens and write a list of resolutions. Some will give up sugar while may will vow to stick to an exercise routine that works for them. Entrepeneurs will make solid business goals and educators will pull out the ole binder of teaching standards to tackle. 2018 will roll up to greet us and we’ll do really well for the first few weeks, staying away from brownies and exercising with our babies in tow.
Then the honeymoon stage of the new year wears off and we realize that, just like marriage, meeting our goals is hard work. So we begin to slip up. We put our hands in the proverbial cookie jar and slowly start to compromise our goals until we give them up entirely, then laugh with our mom friends about how we never even made it through January.
I’m calling us to be better than that, ladies.
Part of being a parent means modeling adulthood for our children. While it’s okay sometimes to eat ice cream on the floor out of the container while we binge watch This Is Us, we have to pursue progress in some fashion if we want our children to first learn from us what a successful person looks like, rather than someone else.
So here are five ways you can set and successfully meet your goals in the new year.
1. Set REALISTIC Goals
I totally believe in striving for excellence. It is a great practice to take part in. But I think too many people, parents in particular, confuse striving for excellence with striving for perfection. So we set goals that are a little too lofty and end up blushing and ashamed when we find ourselves falling short and grasping at straws a few weeks in. We HAVE to set realistic goals. My goals could be, “I’m going to make ten thousand dollars with my online business by March,” or, “I am going to lose forty pounds before bikini season.” Unfortunately that’s just my idealism speaking. Are there moms that do make 10,000+ on their online businesses in theee months? Absolutely. Am I there yet? Not quite. Are there some women seriously committed enough to personal fitness that they can lose forty pounds before bikini season? I bet there are. But while my health matters to me, I’m more committed to other things than lowering the number on the scale, so that goal just isn’t realistic to me.
So how do we set goals that are realistic? Start out by making an overall plan. Where do you want to see yourself in a year? What do you want your health to look like? Your home? Your business? Then write down the steps it will take to get there. Then break those steps into smaller, attainable goals that make sense for your schedule, life structure, finances, and health. Once you meet these smaller, attainable goals, you can keep repeating the process until you meet your long-term goals.
2. Set SPECIFIC Goals
For a short amount of time in college I served as an academic mentor. This mentoring program really drilled into me the importance of setting specific goals. When you have a history of struggling academically, it’s super easy to say you want to get better grades or study more, but that is far too vague. In order for your goals to be attainable, they must be specific. It was amazing to see the power in changing, “I’m going to study more,” to, “I’m going to study for forty minutes a night for five days a week.” See the difference?
So instead of resolving to lose weight, set a specific realistic amount of weight that you would like to lose by a specific time. Instead of resolving to have less screentime, resolve to only spend thirty minutes a day on your phone. Be realistic. Be specific.
3. Write a Plan
This is where it is easy to get lazy. Sure, we are cool with writing down our goals. I dig it. But taking the time to write a plan? “But I have a baby who is about to be crawling all over kingdom come and a husband who wants the kitchen to be spotless.” Girl, I get you. But this is something we seriously need to invest a small amount of time in. It’s a step in the right direction to have realistic and specific goals but without writing down what steps you are going to take to get there, you are setting yourself up for failure. So put down your Facebook and let’s write a plan together.
First, write down your long term goal somewhere to the side. This is ultimately what you want to achieve for yourself. That can be something vague like, “Be a healthier me.”
Next, write down the steps it will take you to meet that goal. These can also be a little more vague. If we are sticking with the healthier me example, these steps could be changing your diet, exercising, and self care.
Now you want to break down these steps into specific and realistic goals. These are your resolutions. For example, if I am going to change my diet, I might make my goal, “I am going to commit to the Whole 30 diet for the next ninety days and record my results.”
Notice the specificity?
It doesn’t end there. Now comes the plan…the HOW you’re going to make it happen.
For example, one of my business goals is to make my first $2,000 by March. I would like to do this by:
- Increasing Target affiliate market sales.
- Creating four gift guides on Pinterest.
- Helping 100 people through my upcoming ecourse
- Selling 100 tee shirts on my online shop.
I have a realistic, specific goal and steps needed to reach it.
Now. If you’re anything like me, just scribbling this down on a piece of notepad paper is futile. It will be used as a coffee coaster or the kids will color on it and it will end up in the trash. So here’s where the next step is crazy important.
4. Invest in a Planner
You wouldn’t believe how much of a difference this makes. When I have a pretty planner to write my goals in, it’s like I have a sanctuary where my plans can be detailed out and explored. I really love the Slay Your Goals Planner. It is perfect for writing out a plan like the one I mentioned above.
I can see it being particularly helpful for teachers, fitness coaches, and moms. It helps me stay organized and keeps my business plans in order. Plus it is super cute.
When children are learning to read, it is important that they see environmental print. Environmental print is any writing that appears in the environment around them such as stop signs and restaurant signs. Seeing these things frequently reminds them of the importance of the ability to read. I think the same thing applies to making and reaching our goals. We need to see constant, positive reminders posted around our daily lives to remind us of our goals and why they are important to us. Whether it’s a bible verse on the coffee pot or a goal sheet on the fridge, put up inspiration around your home and life to remind you to keep at it. To help you with this, I have designed a pack of FREE printable goal sheets and inspirational posters for anyone who commits to being successful by purchasing the Slay Your Goals Planner with me. All you have to do is send me a picture of your receipt at firstname.lastname@example.org and I will invite you to a private Facebook group called Goal Slayers where you will have access to the freebies as well as the accountability of the other women in the group.
So are you in? Let’s do this together.